Monday, July 30, 2012

Until we change patriarchy, women can only play within this system. If we reject the game altogether - not worrying about the way we look - then we will be penalized through economic, political, and social discrimination.
Dr. Caroline Heldman

Saturday, July 28, 2012

When a man says “bitch” is it different than when a woman says the same word? Why? Because there is a power difference. Because when those who wield power and privilege hurl a slur, there is an entire system behind their words. There is fear. There is domination. There is powerlessness on the part of the one these words are directed at. The same is true with racial words and phrases. The word “paki” can spark a chain reaction of humiliation, shame, fear, and terror for many South Asians. Personally, it takes me right back to the days when people who looked like me were pushed off subway platforms in Toronto, Canada. When temples like the one next door to where we lived were fire-bombed with racist graffiti painted on the walls. Pakis Go Home. The word paki could roll easily off the tongue of someone for whom it means nothing. But for me, it is a “trigger” word. It sends me hurtling back through the years to a place of great pain and terror. This is something all feminists can and should understand. And it’s not that much of a stretch, really.

-Neesha Meminger, on the use of slurs 

Friday, July 27, 2012

Being allies means supporting us at a safe distance. Allowing us the time, space, and money to heal ourselves, take care of ourselves, and preserve our families and communities. Some of our battles are the same, but for others, we need specific weapons.  Part of the struggle for women of color is dismantling white supremacy.  If feminism does not challenge hierarchy and white female privilege in general, there cannot be a unified front.

-Ibi Zoboi

Feminist Rapper Friday: Iggy Azalea

Australian newcomer Iggy Azalea is kind of a boss! Love the new Toddlers & Tiaras themed video.

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

So Excited.

In news of other movies I'm excited for, Pitch Perfect looks hilarious and awesome.

I'm totally biased toward loving everything Anna Kendrick does, because, as I tell everyone, she is from Portland, ME, and when I was like 8 I was in the younger version of the choir she was in and got to hear her do solos and thought she was really good. NBD whatever.

I love a'cappella music. I did it in high school and it consumed me. I've watched the Sing Off (the most recent one featured the Dartmouth group that one of my friends from high school was in, he was like the star, also NDB. I'm ready to send videos of him being embarrassing as a 17 year old to TMZ when he gets famous), which is what this show is based off, and noticed that all-girl groups don't tend to make it as far. Actually, in most of the a'cappella watching and listening I've done (a lot), guys groups tend to get the most attention. There are some really good ones that are mixed or all-girl, but all male a'cappella tends to dominate. I like that this movie is about the pitfalls that the all-girl group faces (singing boring songs, facing douchebags), but also OVERCOMING THEM.

It looks funny and has an all-star female cast... I'm pumped!

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

My Feminist Click Moment: Wait... Really?

Originally posted on Foxjuice

As long as I can remember, I have been a proud feminist. But throughout high school, I probably should have seen the signs.

“Feminism is a little extreme,” my honor-list friends would say. The stereotypes are extreme, I told myself. They actually do believe in it, though.

“I definitely wouldn’t call myself that,” my independent lady friends backtracked. They’re just being shy, I thought.

No, I still didn’t get it. Not until college. So when I landed in my first Women’s Studies Class first semester freshman year, I was floored that I was the only person in the room, besides the professor, who identified as a feminist.

Wait a second, I thought. What the FUCK?

Yep, even though I’d been around people my entire life who used the “I’m not a feminist… but,” line, I’d always come up for excuses for them. Of course they’re feminists. The only people who aren’t feminists are psycho misogynists and religious wackos.

But then it hit me. There are HONESTLY people who can say that they believe in gender equality, that rape is bad, that women are sexually exploited, that the 2nd wave didn’t fix everything, and then are still afraid of the word “feminist.”

To me, this is like saying that you acknowledge that objects are pulled toward the ground in proportion to the mass of the Earth, and that all falling objects accelerate at a constant rate, but still be like, “Um, well, saying I actually support the theory of gravity is a little extreme.”

A lot of the girls in the class changed their opinions by the end of the semester, and I went on to TA in the class and watched the pattern repeat itself, but it baffles me to this day how afraid women are of calling themselves feminists.

In my opinion, there are two basic reasons for not identifying as a feminist.
  1. You identify as a womanist. Feminist movements have historically whitewashed issues and put white, middle and upper class women at the front. Womanism is a Black response to feminism, which prioritizes the issues of Black women, but also of the community as a whole. In recent years other WOC have adopted this stance. Some WOC acknowledge the baggage of the history of feminism, and still identify as feminists, or as both.  But if you don’t use the f-word because you’re a womanist, I’m down with that.
  2. You are, in-fact, an anti-feminist. These are people who not only don’t support women’s rights, but actually support regressive stances on women’s issues. Take a gander at the Republican Party—including their women. I’m certainly not down with these people, but it explains to me why they’re not feminists.
I know feminism takes time. It takes that moment. It takes knowing a feminist. It takes critical thinking. But even in this hostile climate for feminists and women in general, I will continue to believe that, deep down, most people are feminists. They just don’t know it yet. 

PS: Every single one of my f-word-shy friends from high school and early in college now identify as feminists. 

Possible New LGBT Classic?

Farewell, My Queen looks kind of awesome... Kind of like the French version of Farewell My Concubine, another LGBT classic. I love a good scandalous period piece.

This is a really important sentiment. We have a society that devalues the things that we deem feminine like sensitivity, understanding, vulnerability, and empathy. When society writes these things off as unimportant, when we say that these qualities are “girlie,” when we overemphasize the importance of “masculine” qualities like aggression, assertion, strength and confidence we make it so much harder for ourselves.
When we devalue the qualities that are deemed traditionally feminine we are devaluing women. When we say that these things are less important or just “nice” to have, we are making it that harder for men to express them. 
There is no one person who embodies only qualities that are traditionally viewed as masculine or feminine. Each person is a mix of these things, and everyone needs both.
When we continue to use these archaic boxes to describe people, we don’t give them their full credit. When women are strong and assertive, it’s not because they’re trying to act like men or embrace masculine qualities to get ahead. They’re just being humans. When men are caring fathers or are understanding boyfriends or subvert gendered expectations in any way they are not “getting in touch with their feminine sides.” They’re just being humans.
It is not in spite of my gender that I am a person who is assertive and strong while being understanding and compassionate.  It is because of my humanity that I can express all of these qualities and not because of my gender or anyone else’s gender. Our responsibility in life as humans and feminists and friends and role models is to nurture this sentiment in other people and allow them to express themselves in a way that is unrestricted and natural. We cannot begin to live in a society that is good, understanding, and open if we cannot embrace these things within ourselves and other people. 

Originally posted on Foxjuice

Monday, July 23, 2012

Not Your Average Family Film...

Drag dad looks awesome!


‎"This Is My Body is a women's rights advocacy video created in response to the attacks on women's health and reproductive rights that have occurred throughout 2012." 


This Week on Foxjuice... Click Moments!

We're on a new series! FEMINIST CLICK MOMENTS!
For most of us who identify as feminists, there is usually a moment or a series of moments that lead us to the "Feminist Click." That special moment where your pride, outrage, frustration, and passion crystalize into a little, "A-ha," or maybe a big fucking "A-HA!" and you can never see the world the same way again. Movies, music, the news, jokes, comments you friends and parents say... you now see and hear everything with different eyes and ears. YOU are a feminist.
And maybe this is a quiet realization. You don't have to be Erin Brockovich or Alice Paul and all of a sudden become a public advocate for your beliefs. After all, it's a hostile world out there for feminists. You don't want to be called a killjoy or a feminazi or a man-hater or be belittled for something that you think is fucking important. Maybe the baggage of the f-word seems too heavy. So your click remains small and private, but it's something you can't go back from.
Or maybe your click is more like an explosion. You just can't keep that shit in. Fuck the haters, you're a feminist now and you're not going to keep quiet.
Whether you're a loud, public feminist or have never called yourself a feminist out-loud, WE WANT TO HEAR YOUR FEMINIST CLICK MOMENT!
We will be sharing ours and want to add yours to the conversation.
  • send your story in a message on tumblr or to
  • try to keep it to 500 words or less. 
  • no matter how mundane or dramatic, send 'em in!

Union Square

New film with female screenwriters, director, and stars. Looks good or cheesy?

Are You Reading FOXJUICE Yet?

Because you should be. Funny stuff goes on there. 

"So, my unsolicited advice to women in the workplace is this. When faced with sexism, or ageism, or lookism, or even really aggressive Buddhism, ask yourself the following question: “Is this person in between me and what I want to do?” If the answer is no, ignore it and move on. Your energy is better used doing your work and outpacing people that way. Then, when you’re in charge, don’t hire the people who were jerky to you."

-Tina Fey

Sunday, July 22, 2012

Role Model: Willow Smith

Willow Smith is such a freakin’ boss. Like, really, this child is so many lightyears cooler than I am. This is her newest video, which is basically the musical polar opposite of “Whip My Hair,” although thematically she’s still sticking to the “be yourself and F the haters” schtick and I loveit. She says in the song basically, “I shaved my head and I DON’T GIVE A CRAP about your opinions” and other really cool things about being yourself and doing what you like that most 11 year olds do not get. I mean, how many Disney Channel or Nickelodeon shows (which are aimed at kids ages like 8-14) give that message? None. They’re all about like sneaking around and like maybe being a popstar but also hijinks and cute boys and unnecessary yelling. Willow Smith is basically like, “WHATEVER, YOU DO YOU.” 
Okay, she’s the progeny of two celebrities, that’s a significant reason why she’s famous, but I love Willow Smith. I still think “Whip My Hair” is a totally awesome song (celebration of black hair!) and “21st Century Girl” is one of my favorite songs to workout to, and um, hello, “Fireball?” How many pre-teens get to collab with Nicki Minaj? So cool. Anyway, Willow Smith may be only 11 but I think she is totally someone to watch. 

Oh Boy.

Okay, besides the fact that this is like clearly a Bridesmaids (one of my all-time favorites) knock off, this looks freaking awesome.

Isla Fisher + Lizzie Caplan + Rebel Wilson + Kristen Dunst (doing something other than looking sad) + bachelorette party antics = ... yes.

As pointed out on Jezebel... hopefully this doesn't mean that every movie about raunchy ladies is centered around someone getting married, but like, I will freakin take it. This looks like Mean Girls meets the Hangover meets Bridesmaids. I'm totally okay with this. Bridesmaids are hilarious! Let's go with it. As I'm getting to the age where people I am friends with are actually getting married, I'm alright with this. I went to my first bachelorette party recently and we went camping. Not like the movies. In any case, I'm looking forward to more. A good friend got engaged recently and she was like, "Oh you better be at my bachelorette party." My response was, "You know I love opportunities for making people wear tiaras with penises on them. I will be there." She and I have been friends long enough that she knows I am serious.

You know... I mean, someday, when Hollywood has gotten over this whole, "Wait... we can have a movie about women doing crazyass ish and women and men will go see it and it will make a lot of money... hmm"-thing, since they're still apparently only comfortable putting women in familiar movie situations (preparing for a wedding!), we'll get ... you know, a normal comedy where women are the main characters and also are hilarious and no one gets married. Wouldn't that be crazy? Maybe too crazy. Maybe too crazy for 2012. If the world doesn't end this year, maybe 2013. Then again, if Romney gets elected this year, the world could end, and if it doesn't, we'll be living in a country run by a man who doesn't drink coffee or alcohol. And no fun will be had then.

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Like a Boss

Nicki, like many women in hip hop, has skirted the f-word, although many of the things she has said in interviews (including this clip) clearly demonstrate her understanding of gender politics in the music industry and how she has to work a lot harder for her success.

What Feminism Means to Us

A couple weeks ago on Foxjuice we got asked about our personal definitions of feminism. Here's what we came up with. 
Keiran: In the most basic of terms, I believe that feminism means equality for everyone based on social, political, and economic grounds.
Kelsey: It is just being strong lady. I think that’s because I was raised by a single mother who did everything in her power to give me a normal life despite the absence of a male presence. She is a total punk who worked three jobs, went back to college, all while she had two toddlers running around the house. Now, she would never consider herself a feminist, and she sometimes falls into playing by gender roles and it makes me cringe. But my mom, she’s the strongest lady I know. And that, is how I define feminism.
Christine: To me feminism is about helping all women become strong, happy, independent and confident individuals. It is about fighting the social norms and ideals that tell men and women that they should act or look a certain way. It’s about looking out for your self, your friends and your loved ones. Mostly it’s about being a bad ass and getting the most enjoyment as possible out of life.
Alex: To me, feminism is primarily about equality. I don’t believe that women are inherently any better or worse than men. It’s a simple concept and yet it is misunderstood and unappreciated by most people. We deserve as much of the spoils, fruits, and responsibilities of society as men do, and feminism is about understanding that and living in a way that projects those principles.
Liz: For me, feminism is the fundamental belief that women and girls should be free from any form of discrimination or degradation. I also believe that oppression comes from many sides, so to be a good feminist you also must be a strong opponent against racism, transphobia, homophobia, classism… and all the various forces that oppress, divide, and degrade people. In that respect, feminism is not about “just women” but about creating and maintaining a world in which all individuals are free to live the best lives they can.
Caitlin: feminism is about doing whatever the fudge i want without ever having to think about the fact that i have boobs.
Beth: Feminism to me is about recognizing that women are human beings in their own right – not “help-mates” for men or vessels for carrying babies. Feminism is also about expanding the possibilities available to both men and women by allowing each freedom from their respective gender constraints – men should be able to feel comfortable being compassionate without feeling like “less of a man,” and women should be able to be strong and independent without fearing that they’ll lose their femininity.
Corrie: Feminism is feeling comfortable, cool, and confident no matter what is in between your legs. It’s about loving yourself. It’s about equality and acceptance, because whether your a man or a woman is not something you can control and to judge someone based on that is stupid. It’s accepting that women have to work hard and men have to work hard and there is little to know difference in the way that their brains work.
Julie:For me, feminism has always meant defending equality, embracing individuality, and heightening expression. It’s about challenging the status quo and never accepting that HOW IT IS amounts to HOW IT SHOULD BE.
Mary: For me feminism is about enabling women to feel they have freedom and power to define and express themselves however they want, regardless of whether that be within or outside of the confines of societal norms of how women should act or be. In short, women should be able to be whomever they want and do whatever makes them happy, without having to worry or think twice about it. I think it’s only through feminism that we can reach this.
Jimmy: For me feminism is about realizing that we are all people and gender shouldn’t be a limiting factor when decididng a person’s worth or capabilities. It’s about empowerment for both men and women to break out of traditional sterotypes, offer support for one another, and embrace our differences.
Jess: Feminism is being able to do what I want and who I want without worrying about what people are gonna say or think.

Friday, July 20, 2012

"I have not found feminists to have any less a sense of humor than members of any group who really cares about a thing, who don’t enjoy people making fun of their thing who obviously don’t understand or care about their thing. Try making fun of sports fans. Talk about no sense of humor."

Political Animals

Wait. I can't believe that I forgot to mention how much I love Political Animals. Yes, they kind of did a lot of filming near where I work and that was kind of a pain in the butt HOWEVER, so. freaking. worth. it.

Sigourney Weaver, resident ladybadass, stars as Elaine Barrish, who is basically Hillary Clinton, another ladybadass. The show starts when Elaine, a former first lady, concedes her historical Presidential run to a charismatic male contender. She said something about how this shouldn't discourage more girls and women from wanting to be President, and that she will live to see the first female President of the United States. I, of course, cried at this point, which was, by the way, 4 minutes into the show.

Elaine's campaign had similar problems to Hillary Clinton's. She was called frigid and her husband took up a lot of the spotlight. People were disappointed with her, but refused to connect. When her egomaniac husband starts going off after the concession speech, Elaine asks for a divorce. OHHHHH.

The show picks up three years later. Elaine goes on to become the Secretary of State, and carries the administration on her sky-high approval rating. A reporter named Susan Berg (a Maureen Dowd type, but younger and not as obnoxious) who earned a Pulitzer for her reporting President Barrish's affairs during his term trades on Barrish family secrets to spend a week with Elaine, doing a special interest piece.


At first I was unsure of Susan Berg, probably because I don't like Maureen Dowd, but she actually got kind of an interesting back story! Since her Pulitzer beginnings, she hasn't done much award-winning reporting. She and Elaine, and Elaine's family, all hate each other.... but Elaine and Susan, despite their tension, understand each other. They're both women in male-dominated fields who work their asses off and have to pretend they're not working hard. They deal with dirtbag dudes and don't take crap from them.

I think that the show is trying to use the "family drama" angle, with Elaine's sassy alcoholic mother and her addict gay son and other son who's perfect and marrying a bulimic girl and her ex-husband's craziness, but  I think Susan and Elaine are going to be the most interesting parts of the show. While the current administration fritters away its chances to do good, Elaine doesn't back down. At the end of the episode, she leaks a story to Susan so that she can get her way in a diplomatic affair. And then she turns to her bodyguard and tells him that she's going to run for President again... and win this time.

 OHHHH. OH OH OH! So freaking badass, right? I want to know if Hillary Clinton watches this show. Also... I can't believe it's taken this long for Hilary Clinton to get a screen adaptation. I hope that the show doesn't get like, catty scandalous, like many shows about women do, but I have high hopes. Here's one to watch!

To consider....

Project Unbreakable

Check out Project Unbreakable, a photo project that takes pictures of rape and sexual assault survivors with posters with quotes from their attackers. The photos are haunting, but most of all they show the strength and resilience of the men and women who have survived. 

Saturday, July 14, 2012

This Week on Foxjuice... Virginity!!

This week on FOXJUICE we're talking about THE FIRST TIME. Yep, we're metaphorically bearing it all to tell the tales of our fun, awkward, painful, disappointing, and wonderful first times. The Foxjuice writers have submitted our own stories, but we also want to hear from you! 

Virginity is not treated well in our society, and so this series is doing a little bit of myth-busting. Rose-petals? Blood? Vanessa Carlton White Houses? Nicholas Sparks love-filled fireworks? Whatever you think virginity loss is like, we're telling you what it was like for us. And PLEASE add your own voice to the conversation! I've read all the posts from ourselves that are scheduled to go up throughout the week and some of the reader submissions we've gotten so far and I love them. They are so stinkin' great to read and it has been interesting to read stories that some of my nearest and dearest friends had never told me before. I recommend you click on over to Foxjuice (and the foxy talks tag) and check up on 'em throughout the week. And if you want to submit... PLEASE DO! The more the merrier! Here are the guidelines for submissions.

- If you wish to remain anonymous, your wish is our command.
- Keep the posts to 500 words or less.
- And we are publishing it all, no discrimination round here!
Keep ‘em short and sweet and send them our way, we are excited! … Email us at

Monday, July 9, 2012

Female Screenwriter Spotlight!

My friend Alex wrote the screenplay and produced this! Guests of a Nation, coming soon!

Feminist Break Up Playlist

Sometimes feminists are sad about break ups. And maybe when you're happy you can love listening to Ex-Factor by Lauryn Hill or Don't Let Go by En Vogue and Patsy Cline and all them and totally be into the wallowy sadness of powerful ladies, but ... sometimes you're just tryna get through, you wanna listen to something that reflects your state of mind, and like... not wallow. You can only eat so many brownies and cry so many tears. And maybe your break up isn't like, that tragic as Etta Jame's I'd Rather Go Blind. Know what girl? You do you. Here's a playlist to reflect that.

This is like... the ultimate. Being single is awesome! I am myself! I have time to do all this crap! I'll date later! Whatever! Woo-hoo!

Oh, the Dixie Chicks have their share of sad songs. But if you're feeling sad and angry... here's your tune.

And when you're feeling reeaaally bitter, Miranda Lambert is your girl.

One thousand duhs.

Divas make everything better, and Mariah Carey's "whatever, told you so" anthem is great. Shake it off, baby, shake it off.

Okay, no one said break ups were fun, but who said they had to be all bad? Who said life wouldn't go on? Rilo Kiley didn't. You'll get through it. OOH! AIR! FEELS GOOD TO BE FREE!

Neil Sedaka's Breaking Up is Hard to Do is like... standard fair, but the fast version is so deliciously upbeat that you can't feel sad. Also, watching old man Sedaka sing this in 2008 is so adorable that you will feel like your adorable grandpa is giving you advice.

Sleater Kinney says it's hard, but it will be okay. And Sleater Kinney knows ALL.

If you're feeling especially angry. Kelly and Trina will channel your pain.

OH. DID YOU KNOW THAT I LOVE THIS SONG? It is the #18 most played song on my iTunes. It's like slow-jammy 90s Brandy and Monica goodness with a 2012 fix ("So log off your facebook!") and it is awesome. It's a little wallowy, but mostly about being strong enough to get that man out.

As Britney says in the beginning of this video, "Whatever."

Blue Mountain State vs. Friday Night Lights

I recently read Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men by Michael Kimmel. I'd like to do a more in-depth post on Guyland in the future, but as I have also of late been watching Blue Mountain State and Friday Night Lights on Netflix, I've been doing a lot of thinking about masculinity. For whatever reason I don't care about actual sports, I love TV/movies about sports. They're usually awesome. 

No debate about it, Blue Mountain State is a shitty show. It is bad on a million levels. It is racist, it is sexist, it promotes rape culture, it is badly written, and basically a show written by and for dudes who worship at the thrown of machismo, irresponsibility, and boobs. Just take a look at the opening. It sums it up.  The show is less about a football team (at a fictional school modeled off Penn State-type football machines) than it is about the boozy, sexy hijinks of its players. 

The show's gopher-faced star, Alex, is the back up QB, whose goal in college is to sleep with as many women as possible, be drunk and high as often as possible, and play as few games as possible. He eschews "traditional" values, going to college for learning, being in romantic relationships, having responsibility, playing football for the love of it. Instead, he is a Guyland fantasy. Alex has girls offering to sleep with him at every bend. He gets all the perks of being on a good team without a lot of the effort. In one episode a women pays him $100 to sleep with him. Alex lives the fantasy of Guyland, and sums up the culture that Michael Kimmel describes as boxing men in. It's not that there aren't people who think Alex has it all and this is the ideal. However, this is what culture (& Spike TV, the "man channel") push on men and say, "This is what you should want." It's three seasons of crap. While there were many moments of the show that I thought, "This should could be funny... if it were a parody," it's really not good. Certainly it does poke fun at some elements of football machismo, for example, the team captain doping up on rabies, the show isn't smart enough to actually accomplish anything other than being a sloppy excuse for its viewers to vicariously sleep with lots of big-boobied coeds. 

On the other hand, Friday Night Lights is the shit. I love love love it so far. I'm only halfway through the first season, but this is a quality show. While there are differences between BMS and FNL (BMS is college/FNL is high school, BMS is a comedy/FNL is a drama, etc), I can't help but watch Friday Night Lights and think to myself, "They got masculinity right." In the fictional town of Dillon, Texas, football rules. As one of the best teams in the country, the football players of the Dillon Panthers are treated like stars and coddled by the town. Their mess-ups mean little when they win games. The cheerleaders act as de-facto girlfriends or groupies. But the show is multi-layered. Each player struggles with being a man in a world where people both baby them and treat them like kings. The star QB is paralyzed in a football accident the first episode, and then struggles to regain his identity while he learns how to function as a paraplegic. The back-up QB lacks confidence and experience, but when thrust into the spotlight has a hard time balancing other people's expectations, his responsibilities at home, and his need to provide for his senile grandmother while his father is deployed in Iraq. Other characters deal with race, socio-economic differences, family problems, broken homes, relationships, and growing up. 

And most of all, Friday Night Lights passes the fucking Bechdel Test. The show is certainly not about women, but the female characters are more than mere decorations. The coach's wife has to struggle with the town's expectations of her and her own expectations, and she's a freaking boss. She gets a job as a guidance counselor at Dillon and is really freaking good at it. The disabled QB's cheerleader girlfriend has to deal with being called a slut when her infidelity goes public. And the coach's daughter Julie is strong in the face of her dad when she decides to date the QB. 

Each of the main and supporting characters, whether male or female or football player or not is an interesting person with a personality, past and goals, and the show's writers treat them with respect. I'm so looking forward to watching the rest of the show (although one of my friends told me season 2 is "meh," season 5 is the bomb) because I really feel like there aren't a lot of shows about men that treat them with this kind of sensitivity and respect. Don't get me wrong. There are a lot of shows about men, but we don't often get to watch this level of careful character development with men. It's nice. 

Monday, July 2, 2012

Fast Girls Trailer

This looks excellent.



El feminismo está allí donde la ética y la política se juntan. 

Feminism is where ethics and politics unite. 

Sunday, July 1, 2012


What I've been up to lately. 





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